Eighteen year old girls have drama. That’s just a fact. We don’t avoid that drama, but help the girls work through it.
One day I noticed one of the girls that I will call Rachel was not herself, quiet and lashing out quite easily. Right after lunch I grabbed her and said “Hey girlie. Want to go for a walk to pick guavas?”
“Okay” She mumbled.
A little ways down the path I asked “Has anything been on your mind?”
“Not really.” She said.
I pushed a little more, “You haven’t seemed like your normal self. Has anything happened to make you unhappy?”
She sighed. “I don’t think the girls like me.”
“Ah. I have felt that way before. It's not a nice feeling.”
We spent a long while talking about why she felt that way, why some experiences in her past would make it difficult to connect with the others, and suggestions to start with one person if befriending everyone at once was too daunting.
“And the most important thing to connecting with the girls is talking about things." I said. "If there are any issues, it only hurts to keep it inside.”
Later that night, I heard Rachel and another girl student talking outside of my room. They spent a good while talking about their differences and how they can bridge them. At one point, Rachel even used one of the terms from the lessons I gave on personalities to help understand the other girl, “I know you are a type 2 and that means you love caring for people. But I don’t want to walk all over you.”
I was such a proud mama in that moment. Seeing the girls grow and learn how to healthily relate with one another is one of my biggest goals!